Man Trying To Decide Whether Or Not To Have
A Tummy Tuck Operation
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is from a man trying to decide whether or not to have a tummy tuck operation.
Man
Trying To Decide Whether Or Not To Have A Tummy Tuck
Operation
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Date: 09/20/2011 |
Submitted by: Mike |
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Hi and thanks for posting about your experience.
Like many comments on here, there's not much
web-space for men getting this surgery.
The most I weighed was over 200 and now I'm less
than 150. I'm very active - I bike alot and have ran
two marathons. I've had relationships with girls who
I thought are beautiful (prettier than me), but I
still look in the mirror and feel gross when I look
at my stomach. While I don't have as much weight
loss or excess skin as some pictures I've seen, I
still have this skin that constantly brings me back
to that place of feeling "fat" and "undesirable" and
all those other stigmas and personal demons that I
had growing up overweight. And to look at me
clothed, you'd think I wouldn't have that concern
(I'm would be considered skinny, but when others say
that I still can't hear it).
I am just not sure whether to go through with it. In
some ways, I feel like getting rid of the skin will
literally and emotionally release some of this. But
then I also battle with the whole "I should accept
myself and my body for what it is" and spend that
money somewhere else. Plus, I try not to be a person
that cares only about the physical, yet this seems
to make me feel like I would. I have pretty mixed
reactions when I ask family and friends. I've had
some that support me but say that they love me how I
am (even past girlfriends) while others say to do it
if it will make me happier overall. I'm really torn
about what to do and what my true motivation is.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated and thank
you for providing all the details about your
surgery.
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Tummy Tuck RESPONSE
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| Date: 09/20/2011 |
Submitted by:
Tanner |
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Mike,
I was never faced with the psychological internal
debate of what my motivation was. I was never that
much of a "deep thinker". For me it was simply "Do I
want to live with the shame of this excess skin for
the rest of my life?" and "Will I make it through
the surgery OK?". What other people thought about it
didn't even come into the picture. I never told
anyone about the operation until I had made up my
mind and had scheduled the surgery.
You indicated that some of you friends and family
say they love you the way you are, true enough, but
they are not faced with and don't have to live with
the embarrassment associated with the excess skin.
It's not about them, it's about you.
Since you have so much hesitation and worry about
this you may want to seek advice from some type of
independent counselor (other than friends and
family) to make sure you are doing it for the right
reasons and give you peace of mind. If you are this
unsure about it now, think of the worry and torture
you will put yourself through thinking about it from
the time you finally do decide until after the
operation. Worrying before a surgery is not a good
way to go into an operation. Peace of mind and
positive attitude does a lot when it comes to
undergoing and recovering from surgery.
My Advice Would Be:
1. Make some appointments and go to a few tummy tuck
consultations with different surgeons. During your
consultations tell them of your concerns and see
what they say or what they recommend. The
consultations are free or cheap and they will
provide you lots of insight and knowledge. You don't
commit to anything at the consultation. The doctor
or staff my refer you to others who can help with
your decision making process.
2. Don't commit yourself to the surgery until you
have made peace with your decision.
3. You may want to address the issue of scars before
you have the operation. Your embarrassment of having
excess skin may be over with after you have your
surgery but you will be faced with a new (although
lesser) problem of visible scars. It is the lesser
of two evils.
About My Operation:
I am delighted with my choice to have the surgery
(especially since all went well). After all is said
and done, it did give me a better self image of
myself. Any shame or embarrassment was gone (except
from the remaining scar). I was even told that I had
more of a spring in my step when I walked. Bottom
line - for me if was well worth it.
Let me know if you need any more information.
Best regards,
Tanner
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